Dear Dr. June: My friend has been married seven years. The marriage has been in and out for the past year and half. When itís good, her husband is great but heís a real pain in the neck when itís bad. Plus, he has a wandering eye. Sheís in and out of this relationship because she doesnít know what to do. What are some good ways to tell when it is time to end the relationship?
ó Helpful

Dear Helpful: First of all, itís a marriage which should be considered a sacred commitment. That in itself makes the decision to end the relationship a difficult one. Regardless, she definitely needs to make a decision because going around in circles is not healthy mentally or emotionally.

Not to mention, if his wandering eye actually goes through a rest stop frequently, it could be unhealthy physically as well. That is one way to determine if she should move on. Other ways include the loss of intimacy, meaning communication and affection. When there is no longer passion between the two is another. The big one is commitment. Obviously, there are thoughts of ending the commitment. If they have tried multiple times and still keep moving away from the relationship, then the commitment to each other has weakened. They seem to be just getting back together because no one wants to make the jump. If they really want it to work, they would not pull away from the relationship. That is a pretty good way to see the relationship is at the ending stage. Either they are in or out, there are no in between stages. Someone has to stop wavering and make the hard decision so she can move on with her life.

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